Making Love Last

"We're not looking for perfection in our partner but a mutual exploration of imperfections." --David Whyte   A dear friend of mine recently wrote me and confided with me how hard it is to be married. Like many of us, I’ve been there and I wanted her to know she’s not alone.  I also wanted her to know that in order to make the changes she needs to make so that life can get better, she doesn’t have to end her marriage. With her permission, I have shared my response to her. … [Read more...]

Power Flow

Two unexpected things happened in my yoga practice yesterday. The first unexpected thing happened toward the beginning of power flow yoga.  I'd just started to sweat and was concentrating on everything the instructor was saying as though my life depended on it.  There's no stopping, just flowing; plank, high push up, chaturanga, up dog and finally, at the end of each sequence we rest in downward dog. That's where I am, sweating, panting, breathing in my downward facing dog.  The instructor … [Read more...]


When I arrive, I knock.  My grandmother is surprised to see me when she opens the door.  "Whale, Ree-gee-nuh," she clucks, "I thought you were comin' next week.  Not this week."  Two calendars hang on opposite walls.  One is still stuck on August but the other one is flipped to the October page.  My name is written then scratched out this week, circled for next week.  I fix the August page and make it October.  Above that calendar is where the clock hangs.  A gift from my dad, it governs this … [Read more...]